Okay, so you ran into your ex-boyfriend and you were instantly attracted to him, which made you question your decision of when you ended the relationship previously. There was no date or girlfriend in the room with him and you admired his style and that captivating smile of his. The inevitable happened and they shared an awkward hug as they covertly hoped he thought they looked cool. But then he blurted out the next tongue-tied line, “it was really good to see you,” followed by an oddly distinctive pause. Then you regurgitated the same line and you both stared into each other’s eyes for 2.3 seconds and you didn’t know what to do because Mr. tongue-tied didn’t move. The hello/goodbye hug came again and they both went their separate ways apprehensively. Both of them had secretly decided at the time that it was still over, but they knew better. The feelings were clearly still there.

The question arises, is he above me? Am I above him? You could tell there was something there, but why didn’t anyone say anything? You probably felt one of two ways, either you wanted it more or you felt like “bon voyage.” If you didn’t feel like the ladder that the “what ifs” weighed on your head as you searched through his social networks and drank wine while remembering with your friends only the good times with him and deliberately forgetting the bad times and why your ex is First of all.

Here’s the thing, you broke up for a reason, whether it was your fault or his, the relationship ended and while you could tell there was still a flame, the smart thing to do was stay apart. So stay strong and promise to continue to look forward and not look back. But how do you do that? This is how you get your head out of the clouds and become emotionally detached again. Follow these simple steps to move forward again and forget about it:

1. Accept the breakup:
It’s normal that you still have feelings for an ex, so you can relax. What is meant to be is meant to be. Accept your current situation and the fact that the relationship is over.

2. Don’t troll him on social media
This is a big no-no. Doing this will hurt you more than help you because it will put you in a negative cycle and emotional prison of controlling someone who is no longer your partner. It’s none of your business anymore, so you don’t need to know what he’s up to.

3. Remember why you two broke up
Many times we forget why we broke up in the first place and if you meet your ex you should immediately remember all the bad things he has done to you. Remember that the expiration date of your union was a choice that you accepted and for good reason that it still stands.

4. Knowing that you are better off without him
Focus on your path because you are doing better than you think. Once again, remember who your ex really was and why you weren’t compatible, and then trust that you’re better off without him.

5. Love yourself!
Ahhhh. Loving yourself is divine. Loving yourself is what you need to really move on. Once you love yourself, you will respect yourself more and that translates to not taking shit from anyone. That dark cloud will disappear. So, love yourself to the end!

There are the people! Let go of that possible fantasy you imagined in your head and set her mind to get back on track. You have a life to live and your ex will not be in it.