I often hear of wives who wish they could read their husbands mind during a marital separation. He is often not very transparent about his thought process and this is very frustrating for wives.
Common comments are something like: “My husband and I have been apart for a couple of months, but he is not very forthcoming about what he is thinking and how he feels. Some days he is receptive to me and other days he is not. is. So I can’t tell if he’s feeling particularly affectionate with me or if he feels like he might want to live again and try to save our marriage. When I ask him what he’s feeling or experiencing, he tells me that he thinks different things at different times and that, when he makes a decision, he will share it with me. This breaks my heart. I have no problem telling him how I feel. Why can’t he do the same? What are husbands thinking about while separated from their wives? ” these questions as best you can in the next article.
Many men have very mixed and contradictory thoughts during separation (especially in the beginning). Obviously, I am not a man going through a separation. But I do dialogue with many of them regularly. And many share a host of mixed and conflicting feelings. They may one day miss their wife and wonder if maybe they should go home and do their best to save their marriage. And then the next day, they may enjoy feeling single or be overwhelmed by all their marital problems. So some of them are telling you the truth when they admit that their feelings can swing from one extreme to the other.
To be honest, these rocking feelings are sometimes nothing new. In fact, many men want separation as a way to resolve these fluctuating feelings. The hope is that once you’ve gotten away from your wife and your marriage a bit, it will be easier for you to distinguish which feelings are the most sincere and frequent. This is not always apparent early in the process. Many men feel very guilty about leaving, and many find that they miss their wives more than they suspected.
On the other side of the coin, some men find that they like the single life. This can be particularly true if your marriage was volatile in which there were always many conflicts or fights. Sometimes once they have a little peace and quiet, they find out that they like it and begin to lean towards making the separation more permanent or considering divorce. Also, some husbands meet another person during the separation and some of them may feel that it is easier to start over with someone new than to revive a marriage that could be irreparably damaged.
Of course, I have no way of knowing what her own husband is thinking right now. It can fall into any of these categories or none at all. It may even be somewhere in between. Sometimes it will give you little clues along the way. And other times, he might contradict himself, which I’ll talk about right now.
Tips for deciphering your husband’s suggestions for what he might be thinking during the separation: As I mentioned, it is important to understand that your husband could be experiencing many different types of feelings. This is why you may get some mixed signals. In general, though, if he’s receptive to seeing you regularly and things are going well when you’re together, then you can be reasonably sure that his thoughts about you or the marriage are positive. But if he is putting off spending time with you or always seems to be making excuses to avoid you, then there are very likely some negative thoughts or doubts on his mind. And, if you’re seeing a combination of the two (which isn’t unusual at all), then you’re probably experiencing those fluctuating feelings we’ve been talking about.
Ideas to try to make sure your feelings are as positive as possible during your breakup: You cannot control your husband’s thoughts and feelings. But you can try setting it up so that you have the best chance of him thinking positively of you. Every time you talk or are together, try to be as cheerful as possible. Try to make sure your time together is enjoyable for both of you. And this could include not leaning on him about your feelings. If you want to share them, it’s great. But if he’s not up for it, don’t push too hard, because if you do, he might hesitate to spend time with you that often. By being approachable and personable, you decrease the chances that your feelings will be negative and increase the chances that they will be positive.
So to answer the question posed, men have different feelings while separated from you. But it is beneficial for you to try to establish the circumstances that foster positive thoughts and experiences. The best thing for you is to worry more about establishing positive circumstances and interactions rather than continuing to pressure or question him about feelings that might change anyway.