Do you FEEL Successful? The secret of high performance (emotional intelligence)

There is a great ocean between thinking and doing. Everyone has that golden invention that would turn the world upside down: they would be millionaires overnight. But millions of people keep their ideas to themselves. Millions of opportunities live and die in one mind.

But what comes from ‘feeling’ and doing. Are feeling and doing the same thing as thinking and doing? They couldn’t be further apart…

“Trust your gut.”

When people ‘feel’ and do, it is immediate. It is not a thought, it is simply done. True achievement is when people continually act/react to feelings, alone. They have practiced so much that the instructions do not even need to become a thought: it is instinct, it is habit and it is like a God playing with mortals.

So why are people so full of broken aspirations and empty dreams?

When we ‘think’, we are translating feelings into thoughts. These feelings are messages from our instincts, our habits, our hormones (the 90%) and even what we are seeing physically. By the time we stop to think, our logical brain has already desperately begun rationalizing these messages.

During this process we receive all mixed messages. We now have countless messages that your logical mind is trying to give some meaning to. We eventually ‘rationalized’ the response, but now it’s hopelessly corrupted.

We get the following –

And yes…
· Goal…
I can not do this…
I am not ready…

IMPORTANT POINT Our instincts, habits, and hormones manifest, if at all, in our conscious mind (10%) through feelings. When we act on feelings, we are harnessing the raw power of the emotional mind. (90%) Stellar performance occurs when you have put conscious time into training and taught your unconscious mind everything it needs to act. Through thought you contaminate the message, and this results in limited performance.

When you’ve put your 10,000 hours into a practice, whether it’s playing the violin or learning a martial art, true skill isn’t about conscious focus. It’s about living in the moment and just doing it.

“When you feel you get results”

Tale: Ace!

As I write this book, he has just finished a tennis match that will change the face of tennis; and certainly the perceived endurance potential of humans. The previous record for longest tennis game, if I’m not mistaken, was 24 games against 26, which in itself was an incredible score considering the average game is a ‘first to six games won’.

It’s Wimbledon 2010; American John Isner plays Frenchman Nicolas Mahut. That’s up to 59 games in total and they’re still serving at 120 mph. The powers that be, however, have decided to call it a night. He is getting dark. The next day he continues the mutual resilience. Finally, however, one smells. John Isner breaks away to win the game in a phenomenal 70 games against 68, after 11 hours and 5 minutes of full speed tennis. The game stopped for the night at 59 games, but it’s still going on for a reason…

IE skills shown:

– self-awareness
– communications
– Stress management
– Management of feelings
– assertiveness

– How did they continue for so long? There are two explanations:

1. Both players were extremely close in skill in performance.

2. Comparatively, they had very strong mentalities: this is where EI plays a separate role.

These players, from the moment they stepped onto the pitch, were in ‘feeling’ mode. They would rely on all those years of training, the 90% leverage, as the game progressed. If these players had been thinking, they would have “thought” they were tired and would have “rationally” called it a night after, say, 20 games. If they were ‘thinking’, they would have destroyed that natural focus. They were just feeling, and as a result of that, they continued to play until their bodies collapsed.

“A thoroughbred horse will run until its heart bursts and it dies instantly. A man will reach thirty percent of his capacity and then he will fall, but he is not dead for long. At this stage, the mind must seize or force or fear take over the mind to extract another thirty percent at least that is available.” — Legionnaire, by Simon Murray

How can YOU become a star?

“Every battle is won before it is fought” – Sun Tzu

Simply put, the most important aspect is to prepare, it’s that simple. Ask any physical trainer in the world and they will tell you that the most important part of your exercise routine is the warm-up.

If you don’t prepare, acting on feeling lonely is suicide, you just can’t harness the power of your 90% because it doesn’t know anything. Just because you ‘feel’, doesn’t mean you should. But the more prepared you are, the better positioned you’ll be to trust your 90% when taking control in stressful performance conditions.

“Numerous experiments have conclusively found that emotional management skills are better predictors of future success than IQ levels”

We humans are programmed to ‘know’, or rather, to think that we ‘know’. Below is a short section from a book called The Intelligent Investor. It’s a seminal work on stock investing by Benjamin Graham, a man who taught Warren Buffett a thing or two. By the way, it’s a book that reinforces emotional control over the intellect, and if Warren Buffet endorses it, you know he was speaking common sense.

“Turns out our brains are hardwired to get us into reversal problems; humans are pattern-seeking animals. Psychologists have shown that if you present people with a random sequence, and tell them it’s unpredictable, they’ll still insist on trying.” “. to guess what’s next. Likewise, we “know” that the next roll of the dice will be a seven, that a baseball player must hit a base, that the next winning number in the Powerball lottery will definitely be 4-27 -9-16-42-10- and that this hot little stock is the next Microsoft”… Just remember this on your next Vegas vacation, okay?

If, on the other hand, you have prepared yourself (and the line between being prepared and not being prepared is fuzzy, but read on) your chances of success increase. Even if you fail, your mistakes will give you vital clues about the state of your 90%.

A single mistake ‘in the field’ is better than endless preparation. Why? Because preparation becomes repetition and error becomes pathos.

Imagine a player who has natural talent. This player is using his 10% very efficiently; it just makes sense to him. Take a seasoned pro who is tapping into the 90% and you will start to see a completely different game. The 90% is not only more powerful, but also more consistent, because it doesn’t depend on the ‘accident-prone’ 10% (the conscious mind).

Action steps…

  • Do you understand the difference between thinking and doing, and feeling and doing?
  • Do you understand why people fail?
  • Do you understand that great performance is about trusting your 90%?
  • Do you understand that when you feel, you get results?
  • Do you understand the importance of preparation?
  • Do you accept that humans are wired to see what isn’t there? (Dice patterns, the weather, you name it. Even ghosts!)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *